All We Need Is Just A Little Patience

I'm not the best with words, so when Dianne and I decided we'd would start a blog to document our journey about trying to extend our family, I was a little nervous. I don't always say the right thing. I'm sure that's not just a "me" thing, something tells me that's written into most guy's DNA.

I've learned a lot about myself in the last year. I've learned even more about my wife. I knew when I met her, she was my perfect match. We've been through more together in the last eight years than most couples go through in a lifetime. I knew I wanted to marry Dianne the day she met my son, Ethan. She was only 21 years old and still in college. I remember being terrified she was going to tell me one day that it was too hard dating a guy with a kid, but that day never came. Dianne and Ethan had an instant connection. She has loved him from the beginning and treated him like he was her own. What's brought me the most joy, though, is I know how Ethan loves her in return. 

Life doesn't always go as planned. I've learned that the hard way. I made a lot of mistakes in my life, and I promised myself I would never make those same mistakes again. And if there is one thing I've learned from this journey Dianne and I have been on for the last year, is to just have patience. 

I was reminded of that lesson last week when we went the Zac Brown concert. I've never really enjoyed country music, but Dianne has somehow turned me into a fan. I really like Zac Brown Band because they are more of a Rock/Country band . They covered a lot of my favorite bands like Led Zeppelin and Metallica that night. One of their best covers was "Patience" by Guns N' Roses. I haven't heard that song in years.  As the band played, I sang along to the words and realized how much they applied to what Dianne and I are going through right now.

"Said, woman, take it slow

And it'll work itself out fine
All we need is just a little patience
Said, sugar, make it slow
And we'll come together fine
All we need is just a little patience

Patience

I sit here on the stairs
Cause I'd rather be alone
If I can't have you right now I'll wait, dear

Sometimes I get so tense

But I can't speed up the time
But you know, love, there's one more thing to consider

Said, woman, take it slow
And things will be just fine
You and I'll just use a little patience
Said, sugar, take the time
'Cause the lights are shining bright
You and I've got what it takes to make it"

I know one day we'll bring home our baby. I know that. We just need to be patient. Watching Dianne go through this pain and sadness each month has been heartbreaking for me. And I know it's ten times harder on her because she' s the one sacrificing her body with all the medication, painful shots, countless doctors appointments, and sheer exhaustion. All I can do is stand by and be there to hold her hand and tell her how much I love her.

My advise to all guys out there...... Go to every appointment. Bring her ice cream if she's having a bad day. Send her flowers just because. And when you can't find the right words to say, just remember to tell her tell her each month, "all we need is just a little patience"